Wednesday, December 2, 2009

Oh The Christmas Cards

I have a conundrum this year having to do with the Christmas cards.

For like the past 5 years or so I've done pictures of the kids for the card. It's nice for friends and family who don't get to see the kids very often.

So, this year we haven't and won't have an opportunity to get a picture with ALL the kids, as we won't see Step-Tweenie until the day after X-mas. We haven't seen her since our trip in August. She has not wanted to come up to visit. She is being a bratty little shit. We have many issues with her - and the biggest thing is that #1 she is an only child at her mom's house, so is used to being the big cheese and does not appreciate being one of many and having to share attention. #2 she gets absolutely NO discipline at her mom's house. She is horribly spoiled and she is mean and nasty to her brothers and sisters when she's here. She clearly does not see herself as part of our family.

I still want to do the picture of the kids x-mas card, but even though step-tweenie is a brat I don't want her to feel left out. That would probably only encourage her belief that she's not a part of our family.

I'm just wondering what I should do and how I should handle it? Do I ask her mom to take a picture of her in red or green and email it and make it a 2 picture card? Do I just scan and include her school picture (even though she's 13 and has a cleavage bearing school pic!). Or do I call and ask her how she feels about not being part of the x-mas pic? I just don't know what the best thing to do would be.

9 comments:

Emmy said...

You just do do individual pictures of everyone in your family on the letter, that way you could put an individual picture of her too. Photo shop can always help cover up the cleavage :)
sorry you are having to deal with this, hope you get it figured out.

LazyCrazyMama said...

@ Emmy: That is a wonderful idea!

Anonymous said...

Yup, that was gonna be my suggestion too!

2Wired2Tired said...

Emmy offered a perfect suggestion. I third it.

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Sandra said...

That was a tough one until I read the first comment...and that is a great on!!!

Susan said...

We have a similiar situation at our house this year, and I've just about decided to send out cards without photos, although I know it will disappoint some folks. But you have a new baby and so will want to have photos for sure. I agree with the first suggestions -- having a photo of the other four and then one with her would be too awkward. Five individual photos would be the way to go (and way easier than trying to get all five looking good in one photo, too!)

anymommy said...

Tough situation, but I love the solution above. Bet she'll want to pick the picture - such a hard age!

Krimmyk said...

I'm with the photo-shop idea! and after wards you can put horns on her to make yourself feel better...

LazyCrazyMama said...

@ All: Yes, that is by far the best idea! Thank you all for the input!!
@ Krimmyk: LOL!!!

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