Tuesday, November 25, 2008

Off and Away

First off let me just say that with the Holiday coming up and all I will be sadly unable to stalk around here until next Tuesday! (gasp!) I hate not being able to post here and visit my bloggy friends from this blog on a daily basis. It sucks. But that is the price I have to pay for anonymity. The really sucky thing is that my husband will have like 2 weeks off around Christmas!! So maybe I will have to schedule some posts or something, 'cause like 2 weeks is forever!! You will all forget about me ;)

For the first time in forever, it will be just our little family for Thanksgiving! While I admit its a little sad, I am actually looking forward to a less pressured Thanksgiving. The past 2 years we have hosted Thanksgiving at our house and my husband's brother and sister's family have come. But both of them have purchased a house this year and want to spend their Thanksgiving in their own homes... The years prior we had spent Thanksgiving (and every other holiday for that matter) going from his family to mine. I really don't miss that. It sucks to have to go to two of everything - especially when you are big crumudgins like us and don't like to go anywhere anyway ;)

And the reason why I won't be around tomorrow? We are making the 4 hour drive to meet my step-daughter halfway so that she can spend Thanksgiving with us. Its been months since we've been able to see her, so I am really anxious to get to spend some time with her. She is a lovely child. On her own that is. She is beautiful and intelligent and wonderfly quirky. But she also has a mad jealous and mean streak. Her and our adopted daughter (who is really our niece) do not get along at all. I think it all boils down to jealousy issues. But regardless, it really sucks. The times when my step-daughter is visiting are really stressful. They argue over absolutely everything. The stupidest most ridiculious things will cause them the biggest problems. I've tried all sorts of things and nothing seems to work. So in that way I'm just not really looking forward to it. And I really hate to say that. Every time I think maybe this time will be different and I always give it a good chance, but it always remains the same. I feel bad for both of them. But I especially feel bad for our adopted daughter. She seems to get the brunt of it. While I do know that she can certainly goad the step daughter on, she doesn't deserve what usually comes her way. They are both about the same age, the step daughter is almost a year older. And here's the thing, she is just downright mean. She still has some infantile behaviours, when she doesn't get her way she acts out physically - she will hit, kick, push etc... And I know that really it is because of her mother and a complete and total lack of discipline at home.

Anyway, so it is bound to be a fun extra long weekend.

The other sucky thing? We can't all make the road trip together, and I really hope we don't have to go anywhere while the step-daughter is here because the car will not fit us all. I wrecked our car with the first snowfall and it is still in the shop. Luckily we have a loaner, as that was our only vehicle. And the super-duper sucky thing? We had just switched insurance companies for a cheaper one and to make the insurance even more affordable (since we totally live on next to nothing) I decided to go with the $1000.00 deductible. How lovely is that? I am just really hoping that the guy who is fixing it can do it for much less than the quote (and I'm totally worried about that because I haven't been able to get a hold of him and he's not returning my calls!). Otherwise we will be completely screwed. We were already going to be screwed for Christmas. I have a couple of gift cards that I got for my birthday last month that I saved for x-mas, but that's probably going to be it. So I've been busy today entering every contest I can find ;)

Man, I'm such a downer today. Oh well, I'm still pretty happy for the most part. We'll see how I feel on Sunday after the long holiday weekend. Actually, I just realized that I can probably do some blog stuff here on Sunday as my hubby will be taking the two older girls to meet the step-daughter's mom on Sunday.

Until then, I hope everyone has a good and happy Thanksgiving!!


Jenn said...

Sorry you are stuck putting up with that, my daughters fight non stop and have since they could both walk and talk. I wish we could move far away so we wouldn't have to spend holidays running between his parents!

Kristy said...

Awww...we won't forget about ya! Have a great thanksgiving!

Rachel said...

I hope all goes well and you have a wonderful Thanksgiving with your family.

I totally feel you on the insurance thing; however keep a low decuctible; I know it's more a month but well worth it in these instances. Best of luck; I hope you get it back soon.

April said...

Goodness! I hope it all turns out well. I'm so thankful I don't have any step-kids. Sounds mean, but I am.

Anonymous said...

Enjoy the quiet Thanksgiving. We love it!

Susan said...

I have a step-daughter and an adopted daughter, too, although mine don't argue (much) because there is such a big difference in their ages (13 years). I wonder, though, if your stepdaughter is jealous of the adopted child being able to live with her dad all the time while the stepdaughter can't. That probably makes her act out a little bit. And maybe the adopted daughter feels resentful of the stepdaughter swooping in and getting extra attention because she's not there very often. Just a thought.

Have a peaceful Thanksgiving!

Jessica said...

I hope it all works out. I too have been entering contests, but I go straight for the cold hard cash. Old Navy is giving away $10K and Overstock is giving away $50K! Go enter those too.

LazyCrazyMama said...

@ everyone: Thank you! :)

@ Susan: You totally hit it right on! Its all about jealousy.

@ Jessica: Thanks, I will go check those out!

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